I walked into perimenopause without a map. My mother and grandmother both had hysterectomies before their symptoms hit, which meant I had no story to draw from — and the worst possible timing. I was freshly divorced, rebuilding my business from scratch, studying, moving, and running as fast as I could to make up for lost time. I didn't have time for perimenopause. I was busy.

And then Mother Nature took me by the scruff of my neck and used her outdoor voice.

Pay attention, sis. I'm not playing around here.

What happened next changed everything — not just my body, but my relationship with myself. Read the full post to find out what perimenopause was really asking of me. And what it might be asking of you.

We live in a culture that worships toughness. That rewards ruthlessness and calls it strength. That equates wealth and power with grit.

I'm not buying it.

Real grit, the kind that actually means something, looks a lot quieter than that. It looks like honesty. Like knowing yourself well enough to stand in it, even when the people around you would prefer a smaller, more convenient version. Like feeling your feelings all the way through instead of managing them into something presentable.

That's the kind of courage I'm interested in. And it's a lot harder than any boardroom power move.

2025 marked the end of something. Not just a year — a nine-year cycle.

When a friend shared that with me a few weeks ago, it stopped me in my tracks. Because when I look back at the last nine years of my life, I can see it. The arc of it. How much has shifted, how much I've released, and how much I've grown into myself in ways I couldn't have imagined when this cycle began.

This is my reflection on all of it — the hard parts, the beautiful parts, and the word I'm carrying into the next chapter.

Spoiler: it's Devotion. And I am just getting started.